Monday, March 19, 2018

Bengali Wedding Rituals



Unlike other Indian Weddings Bengali Weddings have its own flavor of traditions and rituals. The weddings are incomplete without the deep and meaningful rituals which are performed amidst the colorfully vibrant and creative decorations.


Ashirbaad:  The bride receives blessings from the elders of the groom’s side and vice versa on this auspicious day. The elder members of both the family sprinkle husked rice and trefoil on the brides and grooms head and present gold ornaments. This shows the acceptance of the bride and groom by both the families.

Aai Budo Bhaat: A party thrown by the relatives or friends of the bride which signifies their approval for the marriage and also encourages community feeling.

Holud Kota: During this ceremony married women of the household grind turmeric and apply it on the brides body which brightens the brides complexion and her skin will start to glow.

Dodhi Mongol:At the day of marriage the ladies dress up the bride’s hands with traditional bangles Shakha & Paula. They also feed her a special meal with curd and rice.


Bor Jatri: All the members of the groom’s family dress up and start their journey to the bride’s house where the wedding takes place.

Bor Boron: When the groom’s relatives and friends reach the bride’s house the bride’s mother along with other members welcome them by holding earthen lamp, sprinkling trefoil and by placing husked rice in a kula. They are served sweets and drinks after this ceremony.

Potto Bastra: The groom is seated at the wedding altar and offered new clothes by the person who is performing the sampradaan. This is the gift offered to the groom by the bride’s family.

Saat Paak: The bride is lifted by her brothers and carried around the groom in seven complete circles while seated in a wooden stool. This ceremony is performed for winding together the bride and groom.

Mala Badal:Soon after the bride completes the circles, the bride and the groom exchange garlands, the first step which symbolizes that they accept one another.

Subho Dristi: After exchanging the garlands the bride and the groom looks at each other while the assembled guests watch. This exchange of loving glance initiates them in an official union to society.

Yagna: Both the bride and groom sits in front of the sacred fire and chant mantras according to the priest. The fire god, Agni is made the witness of the marriage.

Saat Paak: The couples take circular rounds around the fire seven times.

Anjali: An offering is made to the fire. The bride’s brother hands over puffed rice in the hands of the bride and the groom and pour the offering into the fire together.

Sindoor Daan and Ghomta: The groom applies sindoor on the bride’s forehead. The bride then covers her head with a new saree offered by the groom.


Bidaay: The bride receives blessings from her parents and relatives to start a new life with her husband.

Kaal Ratri:The couples reach the groom’s house they are welcomed by the groom’s party. They are separated for the night to receive a refreshing sleep and to prepare for the final wedding ceremony the next day.

Bou Bhaat and Bodhu Boron: The bride cooks and serves a feast to all the members of the husband’s family. A banquet is held at the groom’s place to treat the guests, who presents gifts to the bride.


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